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Thursday, 29 January 2009

...lets aim for the bigger piece

... the thing is everybody believes they deserve to be loved. when has love not been an issue for women? i am begining to wonder if the search for love is on the same scale for guys as it is for women. This whole thing is becoming so bogus to me. its like the guys are extremely confident that whenever they are ready, love will find its way and i must say, they often get ten times lucky. should women be as patient as men on their quest of the 'right' one? is that why we get done over time and time again? that we rush things and we are to eager for something to erupt while the guys are so chilled out?

the guys on the other hand would not settle for what they think less. in other words; they do not settle (at least not everytime, sometimes they fall short thought). its amazing that only a few men stay miserable in a relationship becuase once they get bored they find other means to keep them happy; be it chill with their boys, absord in football, books, video games, other making money means or simply go get down with some next woman.

on other hand, the women find themselves settling for less for one to many reason or the other and end up miserable as fcuk in their relationship and for shame of pretend happiness being reveled they remain in the shit hole.

is life unfair or do we dig our well of sadness with out own hands.

i think i am begining to think like a man, because it looks like they are getting the bigger piece of the cake and like oliver twist 'i want more'.


until my schedule permits me another post.


before you start thinking i was done over by a guy, i wasnt. i was just thinking.

27 finger tappings:

bumight said...

you! where have u been?

true words, in part the society is to blame. a woman is "expected" to get married within a certain age bracket, but that of the man is almost like 10 years later.

miz-cynic said...

bumight ...u no dey go sch again
1st on like 10 blogs....kilo n ba ka.
i think tht way somtimes too....i guess it all boils down to its a man's world

bArOquE said...

spot on with your analysis...i didnt think you were done over by a guy, it now means that you can go all out & do wha'eva wiv hu'eva u damn well pleeze...i shld drop by manchi *wink*...btw, howz evrythn wiv u?

Lighty 'neferet' Kopearl said...

^ bumight... datz the thing we r always trying to live up to people's expectations and too often find ourselves done over by it; the world of society, i think we're cheating ourselves, selling ourselves short will be the word for it.

^ miz cynic... the problem is we've accepted that notion and therefore feel comfortable suffering in it.

^ baroque... isnt it pleasing to know u didnt think i was done over??? now i feel closer to! and oh yes i can, as i damn well please.

well manchi is screaming out ur name *wink lol!. everything is cool ohh. i cant believe am still settling i thot i would av settled by now, but am getting there sha.

howz u and ur caller miss???

Tears said...

hmmmm...thank God is just a thought, i for shout...nicely put shaa!

hope u good and smiling like u always do...*wink <3

Afrobabe said...

its so annoying....wish I could think like a man and let myself have fun too...

when you find how to do it share the secret..

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

i know a lot of guys who ended up settling, they were soooo promiscuios(sp) in thier youth that by the time they were ready to marry their reputation preceded them and no mother would let them anywhere near their half decent daughters, it can happen to both sexes

Lighty 'neferet' Kopearl said...

^ tears... yes darling am still smiling. how r u???

^ afro... u know now, i'll holla @ cha. lol!

^ mdm... i dont believe they settled, wot i think is they fell short cos of always believing they could do better than the current woman. so theu live 70% and unfortunately marry 40%. lol!

about mothers not letting their daugthers, i didnt know we still arrange marriages, i thot that season was ova.

StandTall-The Activist said...

Good thinking. I am only not sure if all you mentioned are rightly accessed.

It’s so unfair that we settle into socially constructed roles melted out for us as women
Hence all the wrong choices and all.
You are not expected to be independent so men wont be afraid of you.

You have to settle down at a certain age even if the man is wrong for you cuz you are being bothered or you are brainwashed to think there is no time no more.
And instead of the guy feeling as miserable as you are, he is into sport, hanging out with friends while you are busy getting the domestic chores finished.

But really, it’s time we try to think out of the box like Poeticallytinted said in her interview on my blog. We don’t have to just accept what we think is normal, we have to search ourselves and know what will truly make us happy, we need to figure out what our life is all about and so on… until then we may keep doing what is expected of us and not what we truly expected of ourselves


my sista, women just have to be smarter about how they date and do other things. Ultimately, women do get the shorter end of the stick, but if they make smarter decisions, it doesn't have to be too bad.

Take care.

Jinta said...

its simple. women lead with romance (which includes attraction), men lead with attraction (romance can follow if it can keep up). works for me, anyway

Buttercup said...

heyyyyyyyy! been a while! hope u r good??

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