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Wednesday, 20 February 2008

LESSONS.

So am sitting here, in the library trying to do some work for my dissertation, bored as hell because the electronic journal system is not responding and tired too. For some reason the back of my body is throbbing, all the way from the back of my neck to the back of my ankles. Strange because I cannot remember exercising but then MIMI was thinking it might be because I was brisk walking 2days ago, anyway that be that.
Sitting here just looking for what to do got me thinking on my educational life, isn’t it coincidental that most lessons learned in life are actually learned in school? You learnt to be smart, lie, be moral, be conniving, bitchy, selfish, delirious, hilarious, hardworking, good citizen and that some people are just messed up in the brain.

Talking about people being messed up in the brain, it’s just a pity that Nigeria allows that, I mean it’s totally safe to be a downright paedophile. I remember once in primary school, primary 2 precisely I had just changed schools because I moved from the south of Nigerian to the east I think. If my geography is correct of which I doubt but that’s beside the point. So it was new environment, new school, new uniform and new I don’t care attitude. I hate not knowing people, it could be really daunting for me, it weighs me down and turns me into a complete shy rabbit of which amongst friends I am not. Problem is I don’t make friends easy, I would say am too picky when it comes to friends, one of my flaws, call me shallow I sincerely agree. Sorry.

Well I noticed that a group of girls always rally round the teacher’s desk and I noticed they were the beautiful girls in class; all of them had something in common; maturing at 160kph speed rate. I was about 7 and am sure most of them were about the same age as me. Thing is everyone in class somehow knew what was going on although I was oblivious to whatever it was. I just could not wait for closing time each day, for the first year in that school that is the whole of primary 2, I had no friends, not one. Lol, how sad, I just couldn’t be bothered.

Well so there was this maths test we had and the books as normal were supposed to be distributed by either the class captain or the teacher, every1 got their books back except me. I lifted up my hand to alert the teacher of this strange happening his response was for me to come over he would like for me to go through the test with him
Already the peculiar girls were batting their eyelashes at me but like I always do I totally pushed them to the back of my mind, I just could not be bothered. There I was with the teacher, he was marking my maths test with me of which I considered weird. Next thing I knew I felt his fingers slide my panties to one side. I was shocked. 1) Because I couldn’t comprehend how he raised up my skirt without me being aware and 2) I was confused about why his fingers would be sliding my panties. This was primary 2 remember? I was 7 and he was my class teacher. I quickly slapped on his hand, pushed my skirt down, left my book and ran to my sit. Guess what he had to say? He looked at the peculiar girls with a smirk on his face and said isn’t she strange? They all nodded in accordance to his statement.

When I got back to my sit, the girl beside me patted me on the shoulder and told me I did well, he does that to all the girls round his table, in her particular words, ‘they are all silly girls’
I did not report the issue; I was too scared and shy. He didn’t try it with me after that time but the other peculiar girls still rallied round his table. The psychotic bastard!

Primary school lesson learned: some men are extremely messed up in the brain and would go to any length to satisfy their sexual orgies. What a lesson to learn at such a young age even though it was equivocal then, it was still something to ponder on.

Ah ha. The electronic journal thingy is working now, am going back to work. Will be back with school experiences. Laterz.

21 finger tappings:

Afrobabe said...

What fuckery...that is a disgrace...I would have sang like a canary....

How is the reading going babes, you working at the same time??

Naapali said...

Horrified but no longer surprised by this. We need to talk to each other and our children to make sure things like this happen less often.

Thanks for sharing and showing courage then and now.

Lighty said...

@ afrobabe... yes milady, but i work fridays and saturdays, its not that bad. the reading is going so so jo, am tired.

wot fuckery indeed. plus till i left the school, i dont think anyone knew about his dealings.

@naapali... hope our kids wouldnt av 2 experience such, sharing can really lift one's spirit. twas thus a pleasure to share. well God is my strength, i thank him.

bumight said...

o...k! pri 2? I agree with Naapali,shocking but no longer surprising.
how's the dissertation going?

Jaycee said...

I get a pit-hole feeling in my stomach when I hear of such acts. I mean, u were just 7 yr old!!! Wow...

I'm glad u HIT him real hard and ran to ur sit...

I honestly don't understand "why"...

Jaycee said...

I see u love *Deep Soul music*.

That makes two of us.. Ouch! I love Heaven by Kem. Highly classic!

Lighty said...

@ bumight... exactly, these days anything can happen, crazy stuff.
dissertation at this point is going so so.

@jaycee... the guy is just psychotic datz why. crazy mofo.
and yep! i love me some soul menh haaaa so u into soul too? fantastic stuff. we need to set a time and place to share playlist.

Olamild said...

I waz here

I'll be back to read

cally-waffybabe said...

Na wa o but i ain't surprised. How have you been babe? Sorry about all the laptop agro.

Missed ya loads. Just coming slowly back into blogville and to my favourite blogs.

Lovin' your playlist as usual. Stay cool babe.

Kisses
xxx

cally-waffybabe said...

You know sum'n lighty? You know i work wid kids right? I wanted to start up a charity about child sexual abuse like dis in naija with a crisis line for children to call; but reading your story has reaffirmed my suspicions that it wouldn't be an easy feat. See even then you couldn't report it cos you were embarassed, even though it wasn't your fault.

I'm glad you can write about it now girl, but like i said in my first comment, i'm not surprised. If only people were encouraged to talk about these things. Yours was mild. If i tell you some of the things my friends have told me they went through in naija as kids...abused by paedophiles...in fact lemme stop before i start cursing them.

I'm glad you dealt with it appropriately and are now aight babe.

Wo i didn't intend on commenting at first, and now look at the novel i have posted...

Stay cool babe
xxxxxx

Lighty said...

@ olamild... well i will be waiting.

@ cally... oh wow! u're here? how've u been darling, been a whileeeee. was actually thinking of u a few days ago. ive been alright oh, thx to God. forget that laptop, i cant even be bothered with it.

about ur charity thingy wish u the best wit it and hopefully it works out. the crisis line thingy would be good as people are general comfortable talking to strangers about intimate stuff, it could help kids open up to what is really bugging them.

darling hope u okay ohhh, menh e don teyyyyyyy how r the kiddies?

Zephi Fahrenheit said...

are u serious? this is surreal, but it happens...I mean I have heard stories like these or similar even been a victim as well but it still leaves me baffled...

im glad you fought.l wonder why the other girls confirmed....

wait...he did it in front of everyone in class...thats like porn

30+ said...

Primary 2 and in front of the whole class : o (.

Sad pathetic old fool

Good on you slapping the agbalumo head of a man.

Lighty said...

@ zephi.... lol. noooo not like porn, his desk were dem ones that covered in the front so if u standing behind it, ur legs would be invisible.
well i av no idea why the others confirmed.
how u doin milove?

Lighty said...

@ 30+... dats exactly wot i thot. very pathetic, the idiot.

guerreiranigeriana said...

how awful and sad...but like you said, it seems pedophiles or paedophiles, as the british spell it, are safe in their dealings...that's the part that is sad to me...makes me want to homeschool my children in naija too!!!...

...@cally-i think your idea for the charity is right on time and needed...to increase its effectiveness and utilization, i would highly suggest adding an educational piece to it...doing presentations in classes or school rallies [if they have that-essentially, a time when all students are together] to tell children about pedophilia and how to prevent or report it...educating the parents too on signs to look for, effects and how to get help...furthermore, working with local government to establish repurcussions for perpetrators-not neccessarily jail time, as we need teachers but maybe counseling [who will pay?] or something rehabilitative...i would love to help you, if needed, although i'm in the us, for now...but that's right up my alley-sexual and reproductive health...i salute you for tackling the issue and pray success for your endeavor...

Jaja said...

What is more saddening about your experience is the age. 7!... and all that thing about a sacred trust between teacher and student. Naapali is absolutely right we must enable an environment where people feel free to talk... we must talk.. we must make people know that is ok for them to talk...

nice jams on your blog...

Why did you delete your comment on my blog?
I liked what you said.
Blogger usually sends me an email of the comments.. :)

Lighty said...

@gurr... my dear even home schooling may not solve the problem as u get some useless uncles in that country that practice the act with the young ones be it niece or nephew. sad. i believe an environment condusive for children to speak up would be a better option.

@jaja... both. totally agree with speaking up, it would make the act stop and encourage the kids to be bold enough to call out the offender.

about deleting my comment. it's wot blogville as ironically subjected me to. unfortunately, i in particular am not allowed to voice my opinion. it was ok when i thought u were adopting persona, it felt better to write it then, but when it looked like the character in ur post was to be u, or so did the other blogger's comment made me think, it was only safe for me to delete it.
why??? because certain bloggers tend to believe any 'unhealthy' comment belongs to me. anonymously or otherwise.
i on the other hand, comment as i see it not as i think i am supposed to, unfortunately that doesnt work for some. so authomatically i find myself commenting less on blogville. sad shea? ironically unfortunate. lol!

Jaja said...

Well, I for one dont know about all these blogsville wahala.. neither do i care..
On my blog, you, Lighty are free to say whatever you like...:))
Dont be too careful. am not!

Cheers babes

Abbie said...

Gosh I'm too horrified at this to make a coherent comment. 7. Years. Old.??????

Lighty said...

@jaja... aw thx sweetie, dat is such a relieve.

@abbie... yes darling, 7years old.